Dating.

Everyone at Harvard says thatno one dates in college,” and during my first year I certainly started feeling that way too. A few days ago I made a neatly-organized little outline of some reasons people don’t date when in college — then I had one late-night conversation about my theories and everything fell to pieces.

So I decided to spill out everything I thought about dating in college last night in a stream-of-consciousness essay. And I decided to publish it totally raw — besides a few spelling and grammar fixes that had eluded me, what’s below are exactly the words that were going through my mind at 3am last night. It’s raw, it’s disorganized, it’s brutally honest, it’s a little incoherent, it’s me.


What’s up with dating in college, especially Harvard? That’s what I’m gonna try to figure out. I thought I had it all figured out then I had one conversation about it and everything got turned inside out. That’s how it always is. Every conversation I ever have about relationships or love or whatever always ends up that way.

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Islands

Probably my favorite course from my first year at Harvard was a freshman-only seminar calledMultiethnic American Short Stories.We read and discussed stories by American authors of various ethnic backgrounds: Jhumpa Lahiri, Toni Morrison, Sherman Alexie, Sandra Cisneros, and others. Reading these stories gave me some great perspective, but the highlight of the course was when we had to write our own multiethnic short story: short stories about ethnic groups in America and how they interact. We had to write 4 pages. I started writing and kept going and going and eventually I had 21 pages, which I eventually pared down to 18, but still that was the most engrossed I was in any assignment to date.

I decided to write about themes that weigh on my mind a lot: identity, ethnicity, acceptance, self-discovery. Most of the events in the story didn’t happen to me but the themes and feelings are very autobiographical.

My story is below. Here’s a PDF (all 18 pages) if you’d rather read it that way.

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